Dying in loneliness

Recent reports in the media about the bodies of elderly people being discovered up to a year or more after they passed away, has some of us wondering: Where is the love for our fellow man?

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It is rather a sad indictment on our society that so many people, especially the elderly, are dying alone in our large cities and their bodies are not being discovered for weeks, months and in some cases, years.  The latest victim of this tragic phenomenon is a woman in her 70′s known only as ‘Mary’, whose body was discovered in her Sydney home two months after her death.

This latest incident comes less than two weeks after the body of a 64 year old man was discovered in his Sydney home, about a year after he passed away.  There were reports that the elderly man didn’t have a home phone to call for help.  Earlier this year a 73 year old man was found dead in his bedsit in the Sydney suburb of Artarmon, sparking criticism of the Department of Housing who owned the tiny flat.  But Sydney is not the only city in Australia who is accused of not caring. 

In 2007 the body of a man was discovered in his home on the Gold Coast where it is estimated he had been dead for up to two years.  The body of a woman was found in her home at Algester in Queensland about a year after she passed away.  And then there was the case of a 94 year old man who was profoundly death and died a month before his body was discovered in his home at Auchenflower. This disturbing pattern has been repeated in just about every major city in Australia. [source: Courier Mail ]

As a long time Sydney-sider, I am concerned about what has happened to the city of my birth.  We no longer live in communities, but in clusters of houses where we keep to ourselves and where other people’s problems are none of our business.  We stand idly by when crimes are committed and are hesitant to come forward when law enforcement asks for our help.  We just assume someone else will step forward.  So it is when there is an elderly person living in our street, we make no effort to check in on them because we assume he or she has a relative who is looking out for them.  We may also console ourselves with the belief that some charity or government agency will look after all these lonely people.  But after more than a decade of cut-backs in government spending, sadly this is not the case anymore.  And with an aging population, we can expect to see this sad situation repeated over and over again.

Recently the NSW Department of Housing has been criticised for not paying enough attention to their elderly residents.  At least two of those whose decomposing bodies were discovered recently, were Department of Housing tenants.  The department said they have a policy of checking in on their elderly tenants once every six months.  A pretty useless gesture when you consider a tenant could still be lying dead in their home for up to six months before being discovered.

A much better way of tackling the problem are initiatives such as the Telecross program.  Telecross is was developed by the Australian Red Cross and involves a small army of volunteers making more than 5,000 phone calls daily to the elderly and housebound, to ensure they are safe and well.  Of course, Telecross won’t be able to save the lives of all the elderly registered with the program. But at least those who do pass away will not have to suffer the final indignity of having their bodies decomposing for up to a year or more, before being laid to rest.

With an aging population, Telecross needs more volunteers to make some of the thousands of phone calls the program makes to elderly residents across Australia.  I’ve already submitted my name as a volunteer and I encourage anyone who is concerned about this issue to do the same.  To volunteer for Telecross submit your details via the Australian Red Cross website, or call the national office in Melbourne on (03) 9345 1800.

by Deborah Robinson

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Comments

  1. admin says:

    Yol………

    I agree with you that isolation and loneliness are a major problem in our communities. We have lost the community spirit this nation was built on and that is very, very sad.

    As you said, volunteering doesn’t have to take up too much of one’s time. Even a couple of hours a fortnight makes the world of difference to someone who needs a little companionship and to feel connected to the community. Unfortunately, Sydney is not the most caring city in this country. But let’s hope we can do something to change that.

    I wish you well and please drop by and visit us again.

    Deborah

  2. admin says:

    Nicole

    You are to be commended for looking after your frail aged father and not leaving it up to a bunch of strangers to take care of him. Those around you should be supporting you. There is no greater purpose in life than to care for someone who is in need. I think you are an angel for being selfless and caring for your dad. Well done.

    Deborah

  3. Yol........ says:

    Deborah

    I agree with everything you said …. it’s so sad.

    But there’s also another problem for many people in society. Loneliness. There are many people who are younger but also housebound. And lonely. I should know as I am only ~40 but very housebound and have very little contact with friends because they are now married, having children and returning to the workforce and living far away. I can barely even sit at the computer ….

    So my recommendation to anybody reading this blog post is that you might like to join a community volunteer program. I am “on” the program but believe it or not, in Sydney there aren’t enough volunteers so I’m on a “waiting list” until they find someone!!!

    If you’re a volunteer you only need to visit someone for a few hours each fortnight – and you might be lucky enough to find someone who lives pretty close to you.

  4. Nicole says:

    Hi Deborah,

    Quite often I too question where is the love for our fellow human beings, and I find these stories disturbing and saddening. I daresay there would be quite a number of people out there who would share the same feelings, but it is all too easy to express sadness and shock, then carry on with your own life without doing anything about it. I am a full time carer for my frail aged father and have been astounded at the adversity and lack of support I have come up against, not just from the community, but from within my own family as well. Being fairly young and single, I have been advised by numerous friends, family and colleagues not to “throw my life away” and to place him in a nursing home would be the better option because the “burden” would be too much to bear. I guess this comes to the crux of my point which is my personal experience is such that elderly people are quite often seen as “burdens” and not as human beings with free thought and opinions, not to mention the value in a life time of experience. What hope do we have when it’s difficult to care for your loved ones at home, let alone looking out for your neighbour? Thank you for your article. It’s nice to know I’m not alone when it comes to community spirit and seeing people as individuals, not as their age or disability.