I am lonely in space and time. To be more precise, I am 16983.04 km and 0900 hours away from my life’s reference point of Esher in Surrey, England. My new home is Bronte in the Eastern Suburbs of Sydney, Australia. My name is Jade and I am new in town.

There is only one bad thing about being so far away from home, but it is one enormous thing, my family and friends are so far away. No one knows that I used to play the clarinet, no one knows that I am sensitive towards certain subjects, no one knows that I have a dry sense of humor and no one remembers the little facts about my life that I forgotten. A relationship is a connection, an association, or an involvement with someone else. This can be male or female, but for a woman, a friendship with another woman is not a luxury but a necessity.

With a female, every conversation, no matter how silly it is, is interesting. Your female friends cheer for you in testing times, comfort you with the right words when you are hurt and they have unadulterated fun with you when fun needs to be had. I have known my best friend in England for 19 years, we met when we were 11, she used to plait my hair, it was easy to make friends back then. Today you would think friends were as easy to make as clicking an ‘add as friend’ button, but it turns out it is a lot harder.

There are ‘friends’ and then there are ‘acquaintances’. I have a large number of the latter, and found that not everyone wants to make new best friends, they may not feel the need. So how do I make friends in the Australia? People don’t operate a friend cap!

I have found that the best approach is to be more assertive, even if it feels unfamiliar. It may sounds obvious, but asking for a number and then sending an sms to arrange something in the future is what you have to do. You see, I have time to dedicate to the development of new friendships, this time I have is that time which in England, I used for friend maintenance, I just need to tap into other people’s. There is certainly a subtle art to making friends, which if you do not possess a natural talent for, can leave you starving. Never have I become so friendly with my inner monologue.

It was through a craving for my girlfriends that the concept of BeMyWingman came about.

BeMyWingman is a unique social society for ladies. Ladies who are looking to make new best friends, whether they are new to the city, or looking to make more social connections for travel or for fun. The website offers readers a chance to post their social story, read friend making tips, or suggest their own.

BeMyWingman evenings are set up in a speed dating format where participants spend time talking to each other before switching in relaxed, fun and new environments in Sydney with like minded women, who are also looking for new friendship.

Friends can move out of your geographic location, decide to concentrate on new families or you may have just lost contact with them. Traveling a great distance from people who know me, has taught me about what it is to be lonely as a woman and appreciate female mates. I just hope my website and BeMyWingman evenings, help women by making it easier for them to help themselves through participation.

The next Be My Wingman evening will be at the Chauvel Cinema, Oxford Street in Sydney on Tue 17th August. Details at http://www.bemywingman.com.au

“You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” – AA Milne